Poor Jbar, apparently we are best friends forever. :o Surely this is a mistake.
Thank you for the sympathy. 
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Thats okay mate 
I know im not the easiest person to deal with. haha .
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I got you too. But I suspect that’s all driven by Neighbours and the Brands/Snacks threads lol
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Happy to be shared.
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Well it’s clear who the forum tramp is. 
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So apparently @KICK-IT we are best buddies 
And **** me, this is depressing:
Maybe I need to pick up some new hobbies 
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The feeling is mutual!
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I got 66 hours on that, and eww I would never touch Game of thrones or watch the series. So dirty and disgusting does not meet my standard.s
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Jbar is mine mine i tell ya. 
Game of Thrones is awesome so you’ll have to deal with that!
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@TV4 You’re my FBFF! :]
Oh, how awkward… you’re not mine.
Eep. This forum is starting to resemble a reality show.
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Don’t forget to check disacordgo, they get the cheapest deals on rooms and mansions, just go through your self chosen adds.
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It has been brought to my attention that I have been the victim of mocking on this forum. I just want to bring this out in the open.
I have a disability, brought on by an incident that happened at the start of my career 13 Years ago. This Disability is Neurological and causes Spasms, twitches and affects my overall motor skills, to the point sometimes of debilitation.
This was brought on by a electric shock I got when working with a community station, This was a very rookie mistake obviously but I was fresh into the industry and trusted another colleague when he said things had been isolated. I OWN THIS MISTAKE!
This was a very very dark time in my life, as for months I could barely hold anything or at times even do basic tasks, and with the help of great doctors and people helping me learn things from scratch again basically, I got to a point where I could finally restart my career in the medium we all love. Ever since then this particular station manager has made it his lifes work to deny everything and completely mock me every chance he gets and will tell anyone he can about the “little retard boy”.
At the time I made a injury complaint through a law firm to cover the ever increasing medical bills, it took a while for the complaint to progress but during that time it got out publically that I was suing the station involved. Now whilst the amount mentioned did not become the final settlement, which was sealed to protect all parties, an amount was mentioned publically at the start of the proceedings, which had nothing to do with the final which was worked out with insurance company Allianz, not directly with the station involved.
To this day I still live with this disability, it can affect emotions, motor skills, memory, and other problems including seizures. Fortunately, the last one and the first one can be treated with medication, which continues to this day.
Along with this I have had Autism my whole life and struggle in alot of situations and the above only exacerbates those symptoms.
I have found myself a nice niche in the industry working in the shadows behind the scenes and helping where needed remotely and consulting on various technical projects. I prefer to stay that way due to the mocking I receive across the industry for that one incident. I will say this, there are many many people who respect and use my talents daily but there are some who will not miss a chance to mock and degrade me every step they can.
And this happened last night here on this forum. Which I mistakenly thought was a safe place to exchange ideas and banter. However, some here last night made it personal. Dredging up the incident and mocking me in the RDS forums, with only something I would know, using the settlement amount as a PI code, the piling on wondering how you can to that with a winky face. At first I thought it was just a weird thing so I laughed but it became more apparent when three numbers were shoved in my face.
As I type this I am extremely upset, last night I even contemplated suicide, that someone would bring that up after all the years I have spent living it down and doing good work, and let alone mock me with it.
I have been an emotional wreck since I read that, and they don’t care, just want to punish me for a mistake 14 years ago when I was starting out and mock those who have a disability due to their mistake.
YES I MADE A MISTAKE, YES I OWNED IT, and for the most part everybody has accepted me for me, faults and all. All I ever wanted to do in the industry is make a difference, be one of those who tries to shape things for the better. But EVERY time I think I have outlived that mistake it comes back to haunt me, and all the memories come flooding back. The year of my life wasted, because of a stupid thing.
Fortunately it started off with the ACMA bringing me on as a “inspector” and compliance officer back in the day, and whilst I am still doing that work periodically, thats what kickstarted where I am now.
Even typing this I am in tears. I still have the slur in my voice, I still have issues climbing stairs and almost falling over. I still have the entire left hand side of my body dropping things and drooping like I’m having a stroke sometimes, but I power through, and yeah I might mess up and AF or two on RDS because of my memory issues.
But for gods sake, I am human, I am just as vital a contributor to our medium as any of you. All I have ever wanted was acceptance. Sometimes I may say things that sound wrong or mean to people who I respect but its just cause I lose my train of thought, or things pop in my head randomly.
I’m sorry if you find me so repellant you need to bring up something from a dark and horrible time in my life. I am not a horrible person, This is just what I have been fighting my whole professional career. Its even to the point now where I don’t want my name on accomplishments and use the talking heads to convey my accomplishments to people. That is why many of you won’t know my name or what I am doing. I felt like I could confide in people I met through here but I was so wrong.
The one time I open up - Here comes the mocking again. I really dont know how much longer I can hold on, I really am a good person, I really am good at what I do(or at least so I am told) but I just wish some on here would give me another chance and not mock me every time. Please can I at least have that. And to those I might have offended last night with my poorly worded comments about Hot Tomato, I’m sorry. I was just quoting what was said to me, and I’m Sorry. So there you go Tagging deleted as I dont want them abused and anyone else in there last night mocking me, now everyone knows the story of “little retard boy”.
I don’t think I’ll get much work done today, I am way too upset and in tears, so I guess they go their way.
Thanks
Andy
( and yeah you a’holes, theres my real name, I don’t hide)
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Andy, has this bullying been deleted? I cannot seem to find it.
(Trying to get a better understanding of what happened)
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Yes it did. @bacco007 has been great
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Okay. Well, I’m so sorry this happened to you. Obviously extremely unacceptable and you should never be made to feel the way you’re feeling. Please know there are genuine people on here if you ever need to talk. We are here for you.
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I’m sure that there’s a decent amount of neurodiversity and/or disability running through this forum (one particular user obsessed with one particular subject comes to my mind). A somewhat unfortunate reminder that there are real people behind the profile pics.
All that said, personal attacks are not on. My apologies that my post making light of a typo may have added to the pile-on.
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Andy, thank you for opening up and sharing your story on here. What happened was completely unwarranted and unacceptable and I’m glad to hear that the admins have removed it. I’m sorry to hear about the bullying that you faced on this forum and also the difficulties you faced with your disability.
I would think that the vast majority of members here, including myself, greatly appreciate your presence and contributions here on MediaSpy, as well as the great work you’ve been doing recently with the rollout of RDS across the ABC’s networks.
You have my full support and while I don’t work in the industry, you can feel free to message me any time if you need someone to talk to.
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